I have been talking with one of my friends about expectations...
It seems that I married a good man. He has little or no expectations for me! He is happy with small and simple things. If I make the bed, if I scratch his back he is a happy man. He doesn't care (or a least I don't think he does) if I am not perfect. As a matter of fact, I think he likes that about me? Not to say that he wouldn't mind if I lightened up a bit (as in my emotions). He might like it if I didn't yell at him ever again...or maybe just stopped nagging! But he is ok that I am trying my hardest, and that I love him.
I on the other hand AM A DIFFERENT STORY. As much as I want to be laid back, and low maintenance I can't seem to make it happen. When I come in contact with a women that is super laid back I am ALWAYS jealous. Why can't I just roll with things?
I have SUPER high expectations for Spencer. Example #1.
The other night I was frustrated. I just wanted to vent, but I wanted some validation at the same time. So I started venting to Spencer. He in return started to try and FIX my problem...um...wrong answer! I got mad and told him that I just wanted to vent, and be validated. So then I started to vent again. Spencer then tried to validate me....um...wrong answer again. So I go mad again. He said "Jami, I am trying to validate you!". I said "but you aren't doing it the right way!"
HEllO...earth to Jami....what kind of mean woman are you? Perfect example of my high expectations. A little too high if you ask me...or Spencer for that matter!
Well it seems that this morning I got another clear indication that my husband has very low expectations for me. He truly is amazing!
Spencer went on a ride along with one of his police friends last night. He didn't get home till 3 in the morning. Well I tried to let him sleep in...but that only lasted till 9 am (Grace was not having it). So Spencer got up. I was dying (I get SO tired these days...I am not kidding it is getting out of control), so Spencer said "go back to bed". So I did! Spencer let me sleep till 12:00...AND when I got up the house was clean!
I can't even believe that I am writing this on the Internet...because seriously you all are going think I am a TOTAL BABY! I promise that once I get my pacemaker in I won't be such a baby!
But seriously, Spencer was amazing. I am so thankful that his expectations for me are low. Right now in my life I just can't get much done. This would be a lot harder if I didn't have such a supportive husband.
6 comments:
Maybe I need a pacemaker! Girl, I get it. I am the same way. I married like the nicest guy ever, and I do feel bad for my emotional outbursts! It's good to know that I am not the only one who acts like this!
Spencer is the man.
i laughed at the just wanting validation and getting your problem fixed instead...that happens all too often around here.
men...always wanting to fix things.
its so true niki...men just want to fix things. this is an ongoing battle between men and women everywhere. my mom and i had this same discussion just the other day. Matt is always trying to fix my problems when i just want him to listen and agree and tell me im not crazy (even though i am) but it does sound like you have a pretty amazing husband. why do the nice ones always marry us crazies?? I dont know how Matt deals with me. you are mild compaired to me and i dont even have an excuse! Good luck with surgery and everything, ill be thinking of you. i still think it is so crazy that you are actually getting a pacemaker
What would we do without our sweet husbands? Anyway, I have a guilty confession. Every morning I put on a disney movie for Simeon, give him a granola bar, and sleep next to him on the couch. It is the only way to start your day :)
I just wanted to tell you that I made a green smoothie tonight!!! I actually thought it tasted pretty good. Here's what I did:
Spinach
Apple Juice
Handful of frozen peaches
2 Kiwis
1 Stalk Celery (next time I won't do that---it wasn't very good)
1 Banana
1 small handful flax seeds.
It was pretty good---Kyle even shared it with me, and he was SUPER leery about it. Thanks for the inspiration!
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