OK, I have a HUGE...and I mean HUGE pet peeve of people telling me that I shouldn't get my kid Vaccinated! What the heck...do I walk around with a sign on my chest telling them that I want info on whether or not to vaccinate? NO...as a matter of fact I don't. I have NO problem at all if they choose to educate themselves, and decided that the best choice for their family is to pass on them completely, or not follow the FDA's guided schedule. I really don't' care AT ALL. I will not say that I agree with them, but I feel like "live and let live".
It seems as though I have been bombarded in the last year with people telling me all the reasons WHY I should not vaccinate Grace. They all seemed like things to look into, and discuss with my Pediatric an. SO I DID! side note: when people are telling me why I shouldn't vaccinate Grace, they talk to me like I have not researched the reasons TO vacciate Grace. I have news for you people, I have done sufficient research, and have come to the conclusion that I DO want to vaccinate my kid, and I feel DANG good about it. So don't assume that just because you are in the minority that I (person in the medical MAJORITY) haven't done mine! I did my research, and I discussed it with my Pediatric an. I looked long and hard prior to Graces birth for a good doctor, and meet with him once so that I could feel him out. I like him, I trust him...so I discussed the matter with him. After talking for awhile, I decided FOR MYSELF that I would go ahead the the FDA"s guided vaccination plan.
I will not lie to you all and tell you I ENJOY getting my kid shot up every 3 month. I HATE it, I don't get joy from watching Grace be in pain. BUT, I have researched the alternate, and I really don't think I would want Grace to suffer for Months, or the rest of her life from the diseases that can come from NOT GETTING vaccinated.
I also get bent out of shape when woman try and tell me that having a hospital birth that is induced, with an epidural is bad. I really don't care if you choose to do a home birth,or a "natural" one...just don't tell me that my way is bad. I feel the most comfortable at a hospital, with an epidural. Also, I am NOT comfortable while being pregnant, so if my doctor comes to me and says "I will induce you 2 weeks early" then by golly I am going to go for it.
What I really don't' understand is why some woman on a high horse feels the need to tell me all the reasons not to get induced, or get an epidural? Did I ask for her advice? Is this her life? Is it her baby? NO!! She has no business telling me what I should or should not do. I don't tell her what she should do in her birthing experience...why does she need to feel the need to tell me.
I am just so sick of people who are going with the medical minority feeling the need to bestow their "knowledge" on the people who still CHOOSE to stay with the medical majority.
SO to all of you people out there reading this thinking "jami has gone mad", or thinking of all the things are you going to tell me to change my mind. STOP, I am not going mad, I am just the only person willing to stick up to you all. I will NOT change my mind, if I feel like I want to change I will do my OWN research. PLEASE do not tell me what you think I should know!
*"she": all the woman out there who feel the need to tell me their views on vaccination "just in case I didn't already know".
*"people": all the people that do the same thing!
*** also, this is my first controversial post. I am scared out of my mind!
18 comments:
Amen
Maybe you don't really remember me, but I enjoy reading your blog. I figured your first controversial post was a good reason to come out of the woodworks and leave a comment.
Good for you lady! It's nobody's right to tell you what choice is right for your baby or your own body! I totally agree with the vaccination thing. Do people honestly want their child to develop some crazy illness like whooping coughs or mumps? (and in turn, spread it to other children in the community?) Also, I have had people be judgemental of me for having a c-section too. As you said, you wouldn't judge someone for having a natural birth (and neither would I!) and they shouldn't judge you either. You know your threshold for pain and they don't. People just need to mind their own businness and quit being such "Nosy Norah's"!
Don't you wish you could sometimes say that to the person's face! I am such a wimp. I, like you, have been bombarded with advice regarding my infertility, my adoption(s), my special needs child, and parenting in general. It's tiring and inconsiderate. Why can't we all just give each other the benefit of the doubt that we're all making the best decisions for us! Sorry you've been bombarded!
Amen.
I think it is great that each person can have their own opinion. I don't like it when people try to impose their opinion on others. I completely agree with your view on vaccinations. Most importantly though, I think everyone should go and really DO THE RESEARCH THEMSELVES and MAKE THEIR OWN DECISION, on anything like that. Information is good, and someone trying to share information with you is good, but telling you they know what is best for you is not.
Wow, Jami! That's too bad you know someone who is so pushy with their opinions! That would be hard to deal with for sure! I also happen to know people who share the same opinions on those very same issues! However, fortunately for me, I know they are just expressing their own personal views or engaging in a conversation on the subject - with everyone else also expressing their own personal views. They have never tried to push their opinions on me or my children or make me feel bad about my choices about vaccinating my kids or getting an epidural. Besides, most people I know like to share their opinions. Anyway, I am sorry you have had such bad experiences with the people you know. I can't imagine anyone could doubt how much you love your little Grace and that you would ever do anything to compromise her in any way.
Ouch. I hope that wasn't me who said that:) jk! I agree some people are too pushy (when they give advice that you don't ASK for). I think they are just trying to be helpful with their advice because they think you are asking for such advice when you mention your problem (whatever it might be)(like if I bring up my children's ADHD). I know my mother-in-law disgrees with my decision to medicate my kids for their ADHD. And, that's okay. That's her opinion. Sometimes, I wish she'd see my side, but I know she still loves me even if she disagrees with me. And, somedays, I disagree with myself:) on that one, but the bottom line is that we are our own children's mom and so Heavenly Father has entrusted us to make that decision. Some advice is actually helpful to me when I am trying to make a decision. Some times it's too pushy and not asked for, but usually people are sharing with good intentions. If I disagree with them, I just let their advice go in one ear and out the other:) I just try to forget whatever they said. And, when one gets older, that's very easy to do. I can't remember what they say now even when I want to:) Blow it off!
No matter where you go in life there are always dumb people like that who think they know what is best for you and more importantly, your child. Good for you speaking your mind. I enjoyed reading it. I to have researched that topic and I think it is a personal decision. I think the result of not having our children vaccinated is far worse.. plus they can't go to a public school if they don't have their shots.....
P.s.
Was this someone that you know that gave you unwanted advise?
GO Jami Go! Man I am a proud cousin right now. I only wish I could have been sitting right next to you when you were typing this post. Ha ha! Love you.
LoL! once again... i love reading your posts! p.s. could your husband be anymore cute!
yeah, i thought i had a sign on too. wait, do i? amen sista!
I know what you mean! I don't get why people think they can judge you for the choices you make for your kids. Everyone has their own way of doing things...why can't we all respect each others decisions? It's one thing to tell you about how they feel, but something else entirely when they push it on you and assume you aren't educated about the subject. I totally feel you!
You are so RIGHT!! I have also had people tell me how it was wrong to have a c-section! It wasn't like i chose it first of all. and even if i had..why on earth should it matter to them! Way to stand your ground!
What? You got your child vaccinated? What a terrible mother! :) I just felt like you should have a controversial comment because you were expecting some. Unfortunately, I agree with you too much to give a truly vehement reply.
Jami--
I really love controversy. Good job for starting one up. I only wish I had an opinion I could share on the matter--but I don't.
Jami,
I SO agree with you. My best friend is one of those anti-vaccination mothers and she's convinced it causes autism. She sends me at least one e-mail a month making me feel like I'm the worst mom on the planet for giving my kids their shots. I am proud of that title though, if protecting my children against horrible diseases makes me the worst mom ever then great, I'm honoured. :-)
Seriously...Next time somebody says that to you, I would tell them to stop being an idiot and look at the research. I know that you and I have had this conversation before, but there are thousands of studies that show the benefit of vaccinations. And, interestingly enough, there are not ANY good studies that show any detriment from them. Tell them that if they want their kids to die from the diseases that the vaccines prevent then fine, but you want yours to live a healthy life. Wow, can you see that I'm a little bit passionate about the subject? And I don't even have kids yet. Vaccinations rule! Love you guys
WOOT! Awesome post Jamie!
Yay for controversial posts.
Actually Kristina and I feel very strongly in agreement with you on EVERYTHING you said.
People not getting shots for their kids (or preaching their doctrine about why not to) is a pet peeve of mine and Kristinas.
And so is epidurals and natural childbirth (moreso the preaching of it or making someone feel bad for wanting one) as well.
Anyway, I just wanted to let you know that I got a kick out of your post and I agree with you 100%.
--Seth Farnsworth
This can be related to the gospel of Jesus Christ. Not to sound trite here, but why are there so many missionaries out there, preaching door-to-door about the gospel? Are these people they come in contact with "wearing a sign" on their shirts that say, "Please tell me about God and what I am doing wrong with my life."? No, I think not. And yet, I am guessing you support this.
I think, naturally, when a person has found something that works for them and their beliefs- like choosing not to vaccinate their children- they want to share it with everyone they know. They want everyone else to see what they have seen. Especially when they think the outcome could be harmful for someone they know and possibly care about. If you seriously thought that the MMR vaccine would cause autism, don't you think you would go out and tell everyone you know to stay away from it?
I know I would.
So give them a break already.
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